How I Define “Worth It” in My Soft Luxe Life
There was a time in my life when "worth it" meant cheapest, fastest, or most practical. I would chase value the way most moms and homemakers do — with a mental checklist: Did it save me time? Did it save me money? Did it help me survive the day?
But the older I got — the more roles I juggled and the more I healed — I began to realize:
Survival is not the benchmark anymore.
Thriving is.
And that’s when I started rewriting what “worth it” means to me.
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💖 “Worth It” Is Anything That Supports My Nervous System
I’m ADHD. I’m also a mom, a businesswoman, a crafter, and someone who deeply feels everything. When I’m overstimulated or stretched too thin, I snap — not because I’m ungrateful, but because my system is overloaded.
So now, if something brings me calm — a soft light, a plush robe, a bottle of water I actually like drinking, a tool that saves me 5 steps in the kitchen — I no longer ask, “Do I really need this?”
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| Buying all these makeup brushes? Let's see. Saves me time and energy from constantly having to wash eye makeup brushes throughout the week, and which said saved resources allow me to be more productive in my week, then yes. Worth it! |
I ask, “Does this support the version of me that I’m becoming?”
If the answer is yes, it’s worth it.
🌸 “Worth It” Feels Soft, Not Just Smart
I used to think “smart spending” meant denying yourself until the next sale. Or choosing the more “mature” option because it’s what responsible women do. But now I believe that wisdom can be soft.
A glittery notebook that makes me excited to write my morning thoughts?
That’s smart.
Pretty tea towels and tableware that make me want to cook for my family again after a burnout week?
Also smart.
- Gave me a much-needed dopamine boost after a very hectic week
- which in turn made me happy, allowing my body to relax and heal that injured finger...
- ...overnight.
- Gave me content for days
- Made my godson happy because I got him a OnePiece noteboook while shopping for myself
Because joy multiplies.
Softness overflows.
And when I feel good in my space, I create better. I give better. I become better.
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🧴 “Worth It” Sometimes Looks Like a Finished Bottle
Over the years, my readers have commented that I have a lot of beauty products — and I do. But what they don’t always see is that I use them. I finish them.
A quick search in my blog about "hitting pan" or "empties" will reveal that I really use the products I buy, unless it's a really bad product.
I squeeze the last drop, pump the final pump, and wipe the container clean.
These aren't random purchases.
They're tools in my daily rhythm — products I reach for when I need to ground myself, feel refreshed, or simply return to me.
In fact, the things I finish are the ones I trust the most.
The hydrating foundation that never broke me out.
The surprise lotion that never triggered my sensitivities.
I need to rotate my products often because of my skin sensitivities — so when I do finish something, that means it was truly gentle, consistent, and worth it.
Sometimes, you don’t realize how much a product matters to you until you reach the bottom.
It’s a quiet kind of love. One that’s proven over time.
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🌼 “Worth It” Looks Different in a Soft Luxe Life
To outsiders, soft luxe might look indulgent. Extra. Dramatic, even.
But to me, it’s how I honor my feminine rhythm.
It’s how I build a life that feels as good as it looks.
It's how I've been healing myself - physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Soft luxe doesn’t always mean expensive. Sometimes it’s free — a slow morning. A warm blanket. A mango smoothie on a busy day. A wooden spoon I keep reaching for because it feels right. A foot soak in my 20-year old foot spa machine with ingredients from the fridge...
It’s not about luxury for the sake of appearances.
It’s about surrounding myself with things that remind me I’m safe, loved, and worthy — even on the hard days.
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✨ So, What’s “Worth It” to You?
Take a moment today. Not to budget or analyze or justify.
But to feel.
What makes you breathe a little easier?
What makes your shoulders drop, your heart soften, your soul whisper, “This is good”?
That’s your soft luxe.
That’s your worth it.
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Lady E
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